‘Healing Relationship’ Category

Caregivers and Collaboration

Monday, September 19th, 2011

Life can be intense when attending to health issues. Whatever the degree of intensity – low or high — with a health issue, I am present and want to be an active participant in my healing. I want my caregiver to recognize he / she is a passenger, not the captain of my “boat”. Too often a caregiver assumes he / she is the captain on my “boat” regarding health and healing — boat being a metaphor for my health, my life. When the caregiver is the captain, responsibility for my health becomes theirs. I want to be involved in the kind of care I receive and take responsibility to the extent that I am able. Engage me. Ask me about my thoughts on healing myself, and offer suggestions on how I can help myself. For the healthcare I want caregivers would be a coach, mentor and resource; the caregiver would give me confidence to follow my Inner Healer, my Soul, to achieve enduring healing and health.

My Dream

Monday, September 20th, 2010

It is easy to judge and feel superior. It is hard to love unconditionally, compassionately. In moments of humility, love is easy. In ego, love is conditional and depends on many transient requirements.

As a patient I recall some amazing medical moments of love and humility. I also remember some medical moments of ego and feeling judged. When ego is in control there is no time to “hear,” to sense the unspoken anxiety and fears of a patient; there is no time to offer reassurance or hope. In ego there is little ability to smile fully from the heart and eyes. Ego is all about “me” not the other person.

My dream for medical future moments of humility, love and cooperation is to be able to be open with my physician about my beliefs about health, my hopes and fears for health and for my life without being judged. Also my dream is that my physician will seek to understand me, and my health, through compassion. As Hippocrates wrote so many years ago “Help … do no harm,” my physician will work with me to restore my health without harming me. I will feel safe in the care of my physician. My dream is that I will be supported to heal myself by seeking to understand the cause of an illness or discomfort. My physician and I will trust and respect each other. We will have a healing relationship based on love, joy humility and sincere communication.

This is my dream.

Patient Beliefs and Care

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

A patient’s beliefs about life and health need to define the care he / she receives. When this concept was under discussion during a planning meeting at BodhiCare, an emergency physician (MD) said that he did not “get that” until he had a patient come in whose religious beliefs prevented any kind of blood transfusion. This patient needed a blood transfusion; however, the physician figured out an alternate way to give the patient what was needed to recover from his health crisis without giving a blood transfusion. A naturopathic doctor (ND) in the meeting said he had similar experiences. Whether it is a religious, cultural or personal belief about health and life, care needs to conform to what a patient believes will restore or maintain health. One of the dictionary definitions for conform is “to act in harmony.”

Health is the result of harmony of energies. For each of us harmony is achieved through unique journeys and with varying methods, treatments and therapies. Beliefs contribute to one’s harmony (or lack of). When care providers seek to understand how to harmonize their approach to care with the beliefs of a patient, health and trust in the physician are the outcomes.

For more on this topic read Anatomy of An Illness by Norman Cousins.

Natural Doctors International: Haiti

Friday, February 26th, 2010

Sabine Thomas, ND, a Haitian-American naturopathic physician from Seattle, Washington and Natural Doctors International are working to support Haitian citizens using naturopathic medicine and treatments.  Acupuncturists Without Borders are also participating in this effort.  How wonderful that natural and alternative medicine will be available to Haitian people.  If you are interested in supporting them or knowing more about their work, you can learn more on their web site.  Our neighbor and good friend, Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine, Tempe, Arizona is one of many naturopathic colleges joining this effort.

Relationships and Healthcare – An Oxymoron?

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009

A fundamental problem in healthcare is that relationships are brief and fairly short lived.  Relationships were broken by the creation of provider networks when managed care arrived and by the relatively easy movement of people about the nation following jobs and loved ones.   As a result, long-term relationships with a physician became a memory of the past.

Much has been written on relationship-centered care. Follow the link for one of the earliest and best works on it, the Pew Fetzer Task Force report. It specifies very practical ways to implement Relationship-Centered Care. It identifies specific knowledge, skills and values needed.  Some of them are to develop effective communication, engage a community and to improve ones self / health. The report also provides 6 principles which include expanding patient function and meaningfulness into all functions of life, reflective self-work, being close to the community and ongoing education.

Sadly more has been written than practiced when it comes to relationship based care. It is continually given lip service in many healthcare organizations; however it rarely crosses the threshold into action. What is required first is commitment to building relationships, and then becoming able to enter into and sustain them through self-work and an altruistic interest in the welfare of others.

When we have a national electronic medical health record, there will be an unbroken flow of information, which will prevent unnecessary and redundant tests and improve care for patients. However, we still have the human element of love, compassion and trust between two or more people that needs attention.  Relationships are essential to heal one’s self.  Let us focus on healing and relationships.